5 Things Girls Won't Say About Gamer Guys (Written by a Girl)

Once upon a time, there was a girl who was a casual gamer. She then met a guy who was a hardcore gamer, turning her into a hardcore gamer as well. This article explains some of the reasons why she chose a gamer guy, and why the thought hadn’t crossed her mind previously.

[MrSpace]

"I have one friend who is a “know it all” (or as I like to call him, an “elitist”) about technology, games, you name it. Although he is just my friend, it is a huge turn off when he goes on his rants. By attempting to prove me wrong in every point or subject I bring up, it just makes you look bad."

How does proving someone wrong make you look bad, if someone is better then you at games in terms of playing them and knowledge then admit it...don't just say it makes them look bad to make yourself feel better. What's wrong, mad that your male friend is better then you as a gamer.

Look I'm getting sick of these girl gamer articles and I'm just going to come out and say it....guys are better then girls at games in terms of knowledge. You have more girls pretending to be girl gamers to be cool or fit in (whatever there social reason is) then you do with guys. Out of the 11 "Girl Gamers" I know only one of them...yes ONE of them, is someone I can proudly say is a gamer, the others think they are but there really not....most just think if you pretend to get excited and follow the hype of a game like Uncharted 3/Elder Scrolls Skyrim/MW3 then it makes you a gamer.

Gaming is just something which guys seem to grip more then girls at the end of the day....I'm sorry to sound sexist but it's true, I'm not saying girl gamers don't exsist or they should(that would be silly and nasty) but I think what girl gamers have got to get through there head is that games were targeted at guys first, theres more male developers, the online is like a "boys club" as most girl gamer articles mention, video gamers characters are designed to be more liked by guys...you get the point, males run the game industry and males are the games industry main target. Always have been, always will be. It's only now since 2006 because of the Wii making gaming more casual and more mainstream that we see more girl gamers....sorry I mean more girl gamers who THINK they are gamers. If your a girl gamer on this site then this rant dosen't target you since you must be more of a gamer to actually create an account and comment on these articles...come on you must know a "girl gamer" yourself and think "know wonder we get so much shit off guys and they don't take us seriously"

[BustedDpad]

LOL, you are right in your last sentence, my friend. And I totally see where you are coming from! I actually find a lot of girls on YouTube that I think are just attention whores. (Cuz you know how guys bust a nut whenever a girl "gamer" comes around) What I meant by the know it all section was just because you think you're right doesnt mean you are. And if you are right, it doesn't mean you have to voice it. A few of the reasons I mentioned in the article are reasons why there are so many gamer guys who are still virgins. I am just saying! But thanks for reading and commenting, hun.

[jspc1989]

I think what BustedDpad means is that generally giving the impression that you're superior in some way or another (probably unintentionally) is a turn off - i think theres a difference between that and politely correcting someone, in the right circumstances. I can see where you're both coming from - but being ignorantly right is annoying.

There is an expression I believe: A wise man knows all and says nothing and a stupid man says all and knows nothing.

Oh and whilst im commenting, damn i hate the term gamer and how much its used now. What happened to being a dude (or a dudette) who just enjoys playing games?? It sounds more like a subspecies nowadays lol.

In regards to being annoyed at 'fake gamers'. Hoenstly i'm not all that fussed if people just tag along or whether they know the name of every developer since the dawn of time, i dont find it offensive - but perhaps im just laid back lol.

[sobekflakmonkey]

Yeah, I agree, there's a huge difference between being obnoxious and arrogant, and politely correcting someone or stating your thoughts on a certain subject, and @MrSpace just did pretty much what the girl said you shouldn't do in the article, he went off and HAD to correct it (in the way HE thought was right), in my personal opinion, a little too much, and I think she's right, nobody likes a person who just corrects people all the time, and in such an arrogant way too, I've been in a few relationships, and I can tell you, girls hate that shit, it drives em crazy, and its not about proving someone wrong, or whos right or wrong, it's just about communicating properly.

"How does proving someone wrong make you look bad, if someone is better then you at games in terms of playing them and knowledge then admit it...don't just say it makes them look bad to make yourself feel better. What's wrong, mad that your male friend is better then you as a gamer."

that quote right there being the worst, it just shows how immature you are as a person, like...YOU NEED TO BE BETTER, that's bs, and that's exactly what girls don't like.

[zerocrossing]

While I agree with most of what's been said.

In regards to the "Fake Gamers" or even the casual market, they are partly to blame with the current slump in the industry, You see every time a gamer (Dude/Duddet ;D) drools over the latest half arssed iteration of their chosen franchise and pre orders it or whatever or when all the casual gamers rush out to buy the new Just dance or Rock band game, it sends a strong message back to the devs of said franchises saying "don't worry we got you back! No matter how crappy your game is when it hits the shelves, no matter how much we bitched about it when we saw the latest trailer you're guaranteed to earn a shed load of cash because we need our gaming fix more than any quality or innovation.

Im not sure if I made my point so I'll just say this, its ok to let casual gamers buy what they want, but what's not ok is when its starts effecting what the "Hard core" gamers play. Ive watched too many of my beloved franchises ruined because of the devs attempt to make them more accessible to new gamers. It just seems like the industry is more intarestid in hooking as many new gamers as possoble than they are about entertaining their current ones with something inovative and fun

[squallheart]

A capable falcon hides its talon.

@zero rockband its not casual its one of the few that has stayed for the hardcore gamer. For example pro modes and dlc support. Why do you think its not as main stream as just dance etc because its supported by its hardcore market

[SephirothX21]

I agree. People who don't listen to other people's opinions are obnoxious. Don't you dare disagree with me!

[Marceles]

I think that know-it-all mentality can apply to anything.

You know what's even worse than know-it-alls? Wiki-ers. Seriously..if you don't know what something is, don't run to Wikipedia and come back to me like you've been knowing it all this time.

"Well actually N00B! Nintendo was formed in 1889 as a card company"

It's like...whatever man, you know if Wiki wasn't there you would've stuck with it was made when Super Mario Bros came out.

[N4g_null]

Busteddpad you must understand gaming true hardcore gaming is like building car engines Hun. Gamers take pride in know some one that knows their shxt. Gaming is more of an action close to why guys like chess or a good foot ball game or basketball. On the surface we all look like a bunch of raging lunatics but really you should dig deeper. So of those uncool nerd gamers might actualy learn how to love you the same way they learn how to love their games.

Not many women can crack a gamer guy but when they do they are happy. Many of my colleages would be living proof.

The reason why they have to be right is that is what buisness men do, we argue, stay passionate about our craft. Yet at the end of the day we still respect each other for what we can do. So you have to understand these guys are about action not just looks. You know love is a verb but if your just looking to hook up thing I'm sure you can find that every where. Oh and being a virgin does not mean you know more about sex them him lol. Tech and porn go hand and hand lol. Also these guys are more social than you think they just don't trust people as much.

Another thing is please don't fake it. Do some hardcore research if that is what your about. Nothing is more sexier than the girls at quakcon that wipe the floor with many of the guys there.

[Sunny_D]

@coldfire Lol, so sexist, but funny as fuh

[seinfan]

Is that you in the picture? Because she looks lovely.

[CameronL99]

Ahhh the ignorance displayed from virgins on this site is nothing short of hilarious... BAHAHAHAAHAAAAA

[The Killer]

women are women every where any time, and men are men everywhere and any time!

naturally men attracted to women and vice versa!

nothing special and nothing new!

whether u meet a women in the pub, or coffe shot, or street or park or church or airplane or under the sea, there will always be some men and some women who get some interests in each other!

thats why there should be limits on how men and women should behave!

[ATi_Elite]

and if someone says something wrong (and especially about PC Gaming) I'm gonna correct them cause hey I'm a Techno Geek and it's what i do so if a girl can't take it then for the most part she's not my type and I do not want her anyway.

Never date a girl who hates your friends. You've known your friends longer than some random girl so ditching your friends for a girl is wrong! a good girl will like you, enjoy your hobbies, and won't mind hanging with you and your friends.

No matter what be yourself and set your standards high. Girls are a dime a dozen and they come and go quicker than a city bus so just wait for the perfect one.

[gaden_malak]

People who throw out the hardcore gamers and casual gamers need a reality check.
It's not a sport and it's not mainstream, games are played for enjoyment. And those who take it too seriously or are proud of their gaming 'knowledge' are virgins for a reason.

[vickers500]

All of this depends on the context. If you are trying to score yourself a gamer chick, then sure, make her think she is special and never correct her whenever she is blatantly wrong (but don't get pissed if she corrects you), try to keep the conversations a little bit more mature, etc.

But if you're simply trying to play amongst a girl gamer as a friend, then f*ck everything that's said in the article and just treat her how you treat any other friend. If you're simply playing together as friends, then you have every right to treat her just as you would your normal male friends, correct her when she's wrong, shout in excitement or anger when you feel like it and talk about whatever you want whether or not she finds it interesting. Gamer girls (as friends) don't deserve any special treatment over your normal friends, so unless you're trying to score one of these chicks, don't pay one bit of attention to this article.

[Nexgensensation]

A female gamer is not the hottest looking gal in the classroom. two, no girl gamer wouldn't say all that bullsh*t is because, they're to busy talking outside of their necks.

[specialguest]

Quote from CoLD FIRE:
"It's not my fault they're inferior to me. It's frustrating when it's hard to find someone at least a little bit as good as me (Especially girls, it seems like they're all inferior human beings). "

Seems like you need a man in your life. LOL

[CoLD FiRE]

@specialguest As long as that man isn't fat and has boobs, a vagina, no facial hair and a cute face..then yeah!

[DtotheRoc]

okay the only reason there are guys on games that are virgins is because the gaming generation ON CONSOLE is 8 years younger on average than a pc gamer. so for those of us like mseylf who didnt' become a gamer til after i was 19 and already had a lot of life experiences including giong to war in afghanistan this article is BS. you can't compare and say that guys who are gamers are immature or annoying or know-it-alls who talk way too fucking much. instead you can target and say the Call of Duty community gives a bad rep to real guys who like games and technology and are probably good at calculus, literature, and chemistry on the side. it's called culture and the only ignorant gamers are the cod heads. i like cod too but, but it's not my life and older games had it right on the head befor this online community of said, "trolls" ran shit into the ground. HOLD UP i just realized i went on wayyy too much of a rant and my apology but this article is completely generalizing and it's probably due to whoever wrote the article only playing console games of cod or playing world of warcraft--i have never touched WOW before in my life--it looks boring as hell lol.

[lMHl]

My girl friend has broken 3 of my consoles to get back at me for doing something or another and she hates it with a passion your full of shit

[Peaceful_Jelly]

I know a couple of girls that game but all they play is Call of Duty, Halo, Wow or Star Craft. Most of the time girls don't even have their own taste for games, they just play what their friends/boyfriend plays and then they try to make a big fuss about being a girl gamer.

The few girls that you could say are core gamers are always a bit tomboyish like Jessica Chobot and this is probably because of the fact that games are primarily made for males. Is like those girls that when they were young used to play sports with the boys and stuff.

[CaptainSheep]

I so agree. It kinda gets annoying sometimes. In my class, I'm the only one with a PS3 along with 2 other boys. Others don't even care about gaming. So when a girl talks to me, all they say is: "So you like CoD. I play it too." It's like they think CoD is the only thing.. And then they call themselves gamers just 'cuz they played a game with their brothers. -__-

[Panthers]

I know exactly what she is talking about though. People who have to always be right and constantly argue every subject, it is just annoying as hell. Like if I am having a conversation with someone else and he hears me say something thats not quite right, he has to butt in and correct me. That shits annoying. Just keep it to yourself.

[fluffydelusions]

That said, what's wrong with being corrected if you are outright wrong? People that think they are always right spouting their nonsense and passing misinformation to others and are always wrong annoy me. Not saying you are one of them though I just wanted to point that out.

[TheStorm]

Well ya but the problem is some elitist nerds actually think they are always right, and most the time, they spew out retarded dribble themselves. Some act as if opinions are facts, that is what this girl is saying I believe. And I've seen the know-it-alls that really don't know shit, they just believe they do.

That is a common trait in the nerd community. They think they are really really intelligent, but most of the time they are is arrogant as many other people out there. However, yes if they are right about something or have more info to provide do so.

[WhiteLightning]

Agreed.

I know and saw a load of "girl games" around my school but non of them no sh*t about games in general. Some like to pretned to get hyped up with me about a game like Skyrim, some like to talk about MW3 because of how much it's talked about while others do it for the attention.

One girl always talks to be when I post things game related on facebook, for example it's the Skyrim trailer..."Omg I'M SO EXCITED" etc but yet she has had an 360 since it's came out and she has 4-6 games...not even achieving 1000 gamer score, and this is the girl who is always excited about nearly every game trailer I post or talk about, the girl hasn't even played on Oblivion yet I bet she would lie and say she's played it on someone elses computer to counter attack my argument (being honest playing a game like elder scrolls at someones house dosen't give you that full experience...does it)

There was this other girl I knew who...well lets just say you knew she was full of crap but the funny thing was she thought she was always right about everything and was a HUGE gamer. I asked her once if she every played on Half life and she said "What's a Half life".................... ....<sigh>

It feels like sometimes like you get a load of girl gamers who, as you've said MrSpace, do it for there own social reasons but why. Girl gamers who are on this site on more likely to be a real gamer, unless it's those one bubble ones that just keep trolling and trolling, speaking up for equal rights then moaning on about how going online is so unfair. If your a girl gamer on this site then good for you for not being one of the lying bullsh*tters.

[Hayabusa 117]

"One girl always talks to be when I post things game related on facebook, for example it's the Skyrim trailer..."Omg I'M SO EXCITED" etc but yet she has had an 360 since it's came out and she has 4-6 games...not even achieving 1000 gamer score, and this is the girl who is always excited about nearly every game trailer I post or talk about, the girl hasn't even played on Oblivion yet I bet she would lie and say she's played it on someone elses computer to counter attack my argument (being honest playing a game like elder scrolls at someones house dosen't give you that full experience...does it)"

She's not into games yet she's commenting on your video game trailers on FB? Sounds like she's seeking your approval to me...I'd jump right on that on that while you've got the chance ;) Probably not your type though from the souns of it...

[WhiteLightning]

She's a lesbian...

Not surprized though, this sort of thing happens to me all the time

[DtotheRoc]

ahahahaha "what's a half-life!?" that was priceless. keep in mind this chick's age probably says a lot. to all gamers, age says a lot. i'm probably older than 1/2 of the gaming community and you just might be too if you'e [layed the original half-life. you a counterstrike fan as well? that's a game that was huge when kids were 18-21 same with the original halo.

[Xander-RKoS]

I find the irony here delicious.

[gamingdroid]

Me too.... It's as if nobody read the article or comprehended it!

[ReservoirDog316]

Well, I won't touch most of your comment but I will say this: if you think shooting down a girl at every chance won't ruin**** your chances with her, well, good luck with that.

Unless that's your fun little dynamic with her and you do it cute or something or she just enjoys being corrected with a guy she hopes to just have fun with, you'd ruin your chances even if correcting makes perfect sense to you.

Just saying.

[N4g_null]

Actualy correcting them weeds out the social liars. If you just want to get in her pants then be quit. If you want a relationship you better teach her some thing about gaming unless she knows more than you.

Another thing is she may not know if but if she makes it in your circle long enough she will thank you since you stopped her from looking foolish which would affect her more.

Also women who can hold their own and take crates are going to be way more successful than the whinny poos. Gamer guys hate holding peoples hands thur adult stuff.... It's a respect thing really.

I find the prefect age to show girls gaming is in their late twenties after they have dated the jocks and players of the world. Then they will always ask where are the real men at? You know the ones that correct them and have strong wills that are not just about jumping their bones.

[ReservoirDog316]

@ scissor

Haha, yeah I just mean don't be a jerk about it. There's a way to do it. Of course you have to talk but if you're too strict then you'll never be fun.

[Hayabusa 117]

@Scissor_runner

I love your insinuation at the end that gamers are "real men" because only they have strength of character to reach level 50 ;)

[DaTruth]

You know 11 girl gamers? I hardly know anyone I could call a gamer except myself and the few people I met playing Warhawk who somehow never had another game in common with me again!

And the idea of someone pretending to be a gamer to be "cool" or "fit in" just seems funny to me. Gaming is considered nerdy by most people! Being a gamer wouldn't at all help me fit in with my friends!

I can't even picture my wife playing videogames, but she likes sci-fi and you can't win em all!

[N4g_null]

You are so right girls that pretend is a turn off especially when they find out what I do lol. All of my girl friend where into other stuff and I actually like that.

I guess girls have to understand you have to bring some thing to the table to join such a boy club. Being sexy does get you too far. Too many times sexy is the answer.

Great topic though.

[NarooN]

These types are just attention whores. They think just because they're a girl who plays video gaemz, everyone's gonna flock to them. It's not the true reality by a long shot, but sadly there are nerds out there who will cream their pants at the very thought of them existing.

[kaveti6616]

" Although he is just my friend, it is a huge turn off when he goes on his rants. By attempting to prove me wrong in every point or subject I bring up, it just makes you look bad."

Then Mr Space went on a rant in an attempt to prove himself right and the girl wrong.

I think whoever wrote that part had a point. Gaming is not that important. If you're going to be an anal retentive person about gaming, then you're definitely going to turn people off. If a girl makes a mistake, you don't have to comment on it. It doesn't make you smarter. Knowing more things about gaming is not healthy. Since gaming is really just an alternative to reading and/or doing something productive, knowing who developed what or knowing what genre a game falls into is not going to impress most people. I also get annoyed by girls who call themselves gamers and then when you ask them what they like to play the most they say Tetris or Pac-Man. But I'm not going to go crazy about it.

[MrSpace]

May I point out for all the people thinking

"Well havent you just proven her point"

that I'd rather go off on a rant to proove I'm right rather then letting her think she's right. We would all do it, I bet we've all done it once in our lifes so far, you have something you really like, somebody comes along thinking they know it all well of course your going to correct them. Plus this is a commenting section, if I was a girl and said that then you wouldn't of said anything.

Think of it this was

You LOVE the movie Aliens, you seen it a load of times, you kind of class your self as a "film junkie" now you know a girl who, let's say, your walking to school with, she says

"Oh Aliens was on last night did you watch it"
"Obviously it's my favorite film, it was amazing"
"I love the ending scene, "Stay away from her you bitch"
"Stay away from her you bitch"
"That's what I've said...what's wrong

Now dow you correct her line since you know deep down it's "Get away from her you bitch" or do you just let her think she's right. If you do that she may make a fool of herself if she says it to someone else OR she thinks she has one up from you in terms of film knowledge. Not telling her the right quote of your FAVORITE movie would kill you inside.

Point is....is it really wrong of someone to correct someone even if it goes into a long rant. Least your explaining everything in one big go.

Oh by the way thanks for the bubble guys :D

[jetlian]

living in a age where guys are sissified. If your having a discussion theres no way correcting someone is wrong! Problem is woman want to be right all the time.

Even in this post SHE said just cause your right doesn't mean you voice it! That right there should have told you all you needed to know.

I read the alternative article too. Sex should be in a MATURE way! What way is mature? Kissing during a riot, on a plane, in the grass?

[kaveti6616]

You're doing it again.

It's not important that someone messes up an inconsequential aspect of something, especially in the case of getting a line wrong. Your example just proves my point because in your example the part of the line the girl gets wrong is so insignificant that correcting her would indeed make you look like an awkward know-it-all wannabe. You obviously don't know how to deal with human beings in real life if you're actually adamant about what you're saying here.

And another thing that's off is your obsession with minor details. Why would you even know the exact phrasing of the line for a film that's almost 30 years old if not more (please don't correct me on the date, I don't care)?

[zeddy]

girl gamers are rare, and even rarer are hot girl gamers.

[Prototype]

I still call gamer girls a myth; there's a few I know who "play" video games but they aren't gamers

[mttrackmaster38]

I don't think I'll ever find them *sighs*

[Heartnet]

Lets keep it that way ^^

[Dysmorphic]

Some real charmers in here. Cough*CrimsonEngage*Cough.

[NyGiants7]

I agree that A LOT of girls pretend to be gamers but in reality just because you play cod doesn't mean your super awesome. And no offense but I usually see over weight chicks (who also try to be emo/goth/scene or whatever to try and fit in)doing this mainly to try to act there super hardcore gamers.

[Cmpunk]

nerds lol

[blacktiger]

holy $hit, calm down boi! I couldn't argue with you because you're absolutley right! damn it!
Although she's sort of somewhat right, she meant stop over exagerating, i mean I talk about video games all day long, but sometimes I over do it, and I forget I over do it, anything else, YOUR MR.SPACE!

[Heartnet]

Theres nothign wrong with talking about games all day... and saying there is sumin wrong just means ur embarrased of ur hobby :)

[sazzrah]

This comment is just as bad as the article.

So many generalisations and inaccurate assumptions about half the population of the entire planet.

Seriously, I understand frustrations at patronising articles like this written by female gamers, but you've clearly developed a few patronising prejudices and a rather bad attitude towards female gamers of your own.

Sorry but no, knowing 11 female gamers isn't sufficient to judge us all.

[danielle007]

Did you actually read the entire wall of text he posted?

I personally thought it was very well said, and rang true. I hate attention whores, and whenever another chick whines about "wahhhh someone on XBL said mean things to me because i'mma girlll" I cringe. Everyone gets insulted on the internet, it's a rough place, and no one can expect special treatment. Everyone should man up.

I don't see what about his comment is really being sexist, unless you would prefer to see the world through rose colored glasses. Unfortunately, girls are the attention whores when it comes to gaming only because a guy literally won't gain anything from doing it. Girls also have a hard time accepting the boys club feel of XBL and expect special treatment, that no one else gets anyways. I can not tell you how many articles I've seen on this website of "girl gamers" whining about this shit. All it does it make it harder for the rest of us ladies who actually play games and don't cry on XBL. Roar.

[sazzrah]

@danielle007

Yes I did read it, did you? Oh wait, yes you did... you just have the same ridiculous tendency towards sexist generalisation based on your extremely limited experience.

And yes, before you start bleating, I do know you are a 'girl gamer' too.

I am not saying that attention seeking women do not exist, because of course they do - and yes, some of them indeed have found a new avenue for getting their male-attention fix through gaming.

But to suggest ALL or even MOST 'girl gamers' have inferior knowledge of the industry or simply don't 'get it' like men do; or that women are unskilled gamers JUST because they are women is an utterly atrocious and wholly inaccurate thing to say, and to be frank, speaks volumes of his and (and yours for agreeing with him) ignorance of the gaming world as it stands today.

Not even stopping there either, continuing on to say that games were made for men first and 'will always be made for men first' tells me all I need to know - he's threatened. Women are joining the so-called 'boys club' and he doesn't like it. Well boo-fucking-hoo.

The majority of developers are men, but women do exist in the industry and their numbers are growing because their input has the power to greatly improve a game by offering a unique and fresh perspective - the notion that the video game industry is ALL MEN and they make games for MEN ONLY is such a comically childish viewpoint that I am honestly surprised this guy has gathered the attention he has. A woman, for example, is responsible for one of the greatest franchises this generation - Uncharted. That woman is Amy Hennig... Uncharted wouldn't be what it is without the influence of women in the gaming industry.

Next point - games started out as an entertainment medium for families, not for 'boys'. It evolved into that during the 32-bit generation and is now evolving again as the stigma attached to gaming slowly fades away as with other entertainment mediums in the past. Within the next decade, gaming will become just as much a part of female daily life as male, and will be accepted alongside movies and music as an entertainment medium for all.

The fundamental bullshit in the post however was with the notion of what a 'true gamer' is. In his view you are only qualified to be a gamer if you know who Shigeru Miyamoto is and have the complete works of Nobuo Uematsu on your ipod. To be otherwise means you're some sort of pretender who has no right to be mingling amongst the gamer elite. It's completely the wrong attitude for the industry, and completely the wrong attitude socially. You think feeling that way about women in an online social environment won't transfer to other facets of life? Why don't you get back in the kitchen and make him some pie... because if we hadn't evolved socially that's exactly where you'd be - being so childishly harsh to your own sex shows that you yourself have been caught in this farcical display where women act in the way they think men want them to - you're saying exactly what they want, giving the exact opinion they want, and in doing so condemning yourself to being belittled and viewed as inferior just for being female. Well done.

So yes, just to reiterate, I did read it. But I think perhaps YOU need to go back and read it again and have a long hard think.

[Kluv]

I've met some girl gamers that are the contrary to everything you've said. And I like them a lot more than you. Anyone who is oblivious to change is too stubborn for my liking. Maybe because you're blinded and only talk to the "hot girl" who mentions mario and not the actual gamer next to her getting overshadowed by the fake gamer girls looks.
And never, ever use the "not blank-ist but it's true" that's the most belligerent statement people use today to insult others while protecting one's self esteem.

[danielle007]

Well said. Couldn't agree more.

This is a silly hobby to get into for attention, imo. It costs way too much, and requires way too much time.

[Prototype]

@MrSpace

I agree 100% with your statement about guys knowing more than girls - I have actual Yahoochat conversations with this girl (as they claim to be one) that actually argued certain things that other people would question if s/he even knows what a console is and who makes what games.

The part I'm more pissed off about; I can't stand when you get those 1-2 girls who write articles about how its ok for gamer guys to be themselves and get someone; however you have youtube videos and/or blogs that says otherwise. The girl who wrote this is someone I hear about all the time but never, ever met in real life; I make efforts to at least talk to a female and I don't pull the whole "know it all" or "gamer talk 24/7" however what she failed to mention is unless you have a second (or third) skill/talent they have an interest in you "might" get a response. Women like her need to learn to get "gamer guys" to be social and open up the girl needs to actually put the effort into showing the guy there are people who's willing to accept him as is; otherwise your gonna just add salt to the wound and make him isolate even more.

[cjflora]

@ mrspace, I think you just proved her point.

[CoLD FiRE]

"I" know it all. Girls will have to deal with it.

[Heartnet]

yeh and if they dont.. Scew them! YEH!

[gedapeleda]

Don't bother reading the article she's not hot.

[Muffins1223]

written by a person who has no girlfriend

[Linko64]

Iv got a feeling if a guy wrote somthing in this vein about a 'girl gamer' (oh i hate that term as it defeats the whole point of 'girl gamers' wanting to be treated the same yet feel the need to refer to themself as a 'girl gamer')then the 'guy gamer' would be getting a lot of heat.

[UnwanteDreamz]

Women use 20,000 words a day on average. Men 7,000. She thinks gamer guys talk too much? All of women kind talks too much. 13,000 more words a day.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/...

[Ja555on]

I hate studies like these, for all you know they only asked two people, I would prefer to see some statistics that can't be questioned.

[UnwanteDreamz]

Statistics can be manipulated to serve your purposes regardless of facts. If you are waiting for definative proof of anything then start believing in nothing.

[QuodEratDemonstrandm]

There are three categories of falsehood:

1) lies
2) damnable lies
3) statistics

[bozebo]

54% of all statistics are made up

[Ja555on]

Lol @bozebo I like it

[Sidewinder-]

The Daily MAiil lol!

[CDbiggen]

Says it all xD

http://www.youtube.com/watc...

[CaptainSheep]

lol, does the men word count include "F***!", "YEAH!", "NO!" And words like that that are used by a guy when he's losing\winning online? XD

[palaeomerus]

Advice from strangers who have never seen you much less grown to know you is ALWAYS useless shit. Stop being so damned boring and "know it all". Gamer Girls who think nerds are all the same just don't have much to teach anyone about anything. Nor should your standards of what is attractive ever be other's people's problems. So what if you are a girl. There are a lot of girls. There are more girls than boys now. Big deal. Who cares? So you have a sexual identity and hobby. What does that make you an expert in? It's not a position of honor and privilege that gives you standing to tell other people how to live their lives.

[vortis]

I think a lot of people tend to forget that gaming has become part our daily culture (I speak on behalf of core gamers).

The "Girl Gamer" movement is no different than the nerdy kid at school hanging around the jocks trying to "fit in" because he thinks they're cool. That's what gaming has become since it went mainstream (as others posters mentioned) with the DS and Wii.

Realistically, if you're a gamer then you're a gamer, no matter creed, race, religion, sex or sexual orientation.

As for the article, I think it just pinpoints what others have mentioned...since gaming has become mainstream it's become a hobby that a lot of people now want to get attached to because it's an "In" thing.

But realistically, let's be honest, any guy who can't stop talking games and is an uber-core gamer who thinks his killstreak/gamerscore/leaderbo ard rank is hotter than his girlfriend doesn't deserve a girlfriend.

[zerocrossing]

I personally never had a problem with "girl gamers" my little sis has been gaming since she could hold a controller lol, I remember being so proud after she finished Skies of Arcadia for the Dreamcast! She officially stepped up to Hardcore status after that. Not the toughest RPG but to stick it out till the end and find most of the hidden secrets was pretty impressive going by typical girl gamer stereo type standards.

I'll tell you now It bugs me hearing guy gamers spewing crap like they know it all just as much as it would if a girl gamer was doing it, Gamers never gamed because it was popular and cool! Hell we knew it was cool but we also knew a lot of other people thought it was nerdy. Its only now that gaming has become "Main stream" that we get anyone with opposable thumbs thinking they're gamers! If you think COD games are the best FPS games going evah, play Wii sports regularly and buy games to earn trophies or up their gamer score... Or the one that makes me cringe most "Own a Wii balance bored".... Then I'll tell you now, none of them make you a gamer.

ok rant over.

[tarbis]

Lol, is this another article made by those Ladies confession writers in FHM?

[CrescentFang]

I wonder if anyone know any girls who like to import and play any niche Japanese games (or just play any niche Japanese games published in their region)
(tbh I have not thoroughly looked up on this, but I'm suspecting there are a lot more than I think)

[CDbiggen]

Slow news day.

[MetalFreakMike]

I would love to have a gamer girlfriend but as other people said "You can't win them all.". As long as she does not care I play my games and will sit down with me and watch Star Trek and Star Wars then I'm good. Still looking for that kind of girl tho......

[sazzrah]

They're out there. :P

[Prototype]

Where?

[climaxz]

All the girls that I know play games only talk about COD so...

[climaxz]

This is like the only time gamers can rip on other people lol.

[Gigglefist]

Why must someone be a "girl gamer". How about just a gamer? I don't understand why a girl who games tends to be such a big deal.

[mastiffchild]

I tend to agree. The missus and our eldest daughter both game and, though I'm biased, I'd say they're both very pretty, very slim ladies-and to watch them influence voting on maps online is a bit amusing sometimes! All it sometimes takes is a female voice asking nicely for people to vote a particular way and, voila, it happens!

Anyhow, point is, I don't think either of them would actually go around declaring themselves "gamers" anyway-I don't think it's either a sign of "nerdiness" or a badge of honour these days. The wife is a more "hardcore" gamer than I am, truth be told as she does things in gaming I'd never bother with-she's trying to break Sonic2 speedrun records and has been for some time now(getting ever closer which scares me) for example but I don't think she ever feels the need to say "I AM a gamer girl!".

I'm sure the woman who wrote this piece, however, means well and admits she wrote it with some stereotypes in her mind but maybe a lot of non gamer girls start off with those same ideas about all gamers, who knows? What she advocates, though, is pretty much common sense when dealing with the opposite sex, isn't it? Don't correct EVERYTHING they say, don't go on about just one thing and so on? It just feels a bit obvious to me and if we male gamers ARE missing these things then God help us!

Whatever, nothing anyone should be upset about imho-even if I do, these days especially, find the term "gamer" a bit loose and pointless be you male or be you a lady!

[jeeves86]

There's a difference between being a gurl gamer and a woman who happens to enjoy games.

[zerocrossing]

Agreed, sounds like there's a lot of insecure male gamers out there still.

[sazzrah]

I'm a gamer and happen to also be female, but I have and never will refer to myself as a 'girl gamer'. Such a phrase tends to draw unwanted attention and causes others to instantly attach unfair stereotypes.

[Gigglefist]

Precisely!

[Rettom]

"...going into details about development and comparing it to other games is not something I may be interested in talking about. Especially when I am trying to get to know you."

LOLOLOL you want to date them or something?

Edit: WAITWAITWAIT! Is this whole article a how-to about how to get girls or something?

[rataranian]

Gamer girl or not. It's still a girl. Which means she's always going to never be happy enough, she'll always demand more attention from you or someone else, and eventually try to mold your life to fit her life. Games now, marriage and babies later. I know this, because I've lived it. Regular girls, gamer girls, or other. Just remember a wise mans words of advice that may save your life: "If it bleeds, we can kill it". Stick to porn and cheap women. Fin.

[palaeomerus]

Here's hint for you. Life is not facebook, OR a middle school popularity contest, and getting laid is not the main point of life, especially if it is with some stuck up, self important, cliche spewing, shallow, small minded little twit who thinks a male gamer should constantly put on a show just to be recognized as a human being. Grow the hell up.

[maxmill]

agreed

but sex is awesome though

[jacksonmichael]

Woo.

[Snowii]

why is this here?

all she tells us is "dont be shy and dont talk alot about gaming"

no shit sherlock

and no girls dont find gamers hot

[FreydaWright]

This is a lie. Females do not find gamer nerds attractive, which is why I call myself a game enthusiast.

The difference is this: game enthusiasts have a life, and on occasion like to play video games. Gamer nerds have no life, and on occasion step outside their front door to see the sun for a few minutes.

[SANDWICHMASTA]

why are these kind of articles always in the top 5? is the enitre community of n4g really this sad and lonely? this is almost as bad as the articles along the lines of "TOP 5 HOTTEST GAME CHICKS" which happen twice every month at least

[Rettom]

I actually come on here to rant a little about how stupid the article is (yes I read it)

[kesvalk]

seriously? if i am playing, i don't want to hear about how your day was or anything else, for that we have the rest of the day...

don't bring your whining inside gaming too...

[parasit3]

the chic in th headline picture is HOT

[Scribe81]

My wife kicks my tail at Pac-man. No matter how high a score I get, she always comes back with one higher. My sister is a Zelda-o-holic since she used to always sit in my room when I played Ocarina of time when she was like 7. I can't even score a point against my step-daughter in NBA2K11 since she's a freaking master. My other sister is an artist, got into anime and has wound up borrowing like ten of my jRPG's, inlcuding the ol'skool Squaresoft ones I've still got.

None of them play for very long on a day to day basis, it's more like they go on a binge for a certain amount of time and then stop, but I'd consider all of them gamer's. Do they know news, and developer stuff going on, no, not at all. That type of gamer is just a video game news monger--like I'm trying to stop being! A gamer is somebody that plays, and somebody that likes what they play and get good at what they play. I will never touch one of those dance-off type of games, but if a group of girls use that game to play and get better at dancing because of it, I would still consider them having been a gamer during that period of time.

And to the girl poster that said she doesn't like a rant going on if a guy knows something they don't, why don't you speak up and tell the guy instead of bottling it in and writing an article about it? Make a joke about it with the guy? I'm a classial mythology nerd and everytime I come across iconography in an ad, book or movie, I have to tell where it comes from. Wife laughs when I go into encyclopedia mode, stops what she's doing, quiets anybody around us, and listens. Why? Because she enjoys listening to what I know about, thinks its funny I know so much about it and respects me enough to allow me to rant.

To be fair though, guys, if your girl goes into a rant about something, if you don't want her to talk smack about when you do it, close your mouth and listen up. Hopefully you have girls that aren't dumb as doornails and can talk about more than just freaking reality TV or make-up, but if you don't, cut the one you've got and find a better one. My wife is going into PA school and is a pre-med science nerd. She goes into rants about this type of stuff and even though it grosses me out hearing all her stories from the hospital, I suck it up and hear her out. It buys you a pass to be intellectually superior in what you know in the future along with many other benefits from listening to your woman and making her feel better about what she knows by validating it with your attention for a couple of minutes. That's all she's asking for, just your attention for a few minutes. And girl gamer, all a guy wants you to understand is how freaking bada$$ they are with the knowledge they do possess, that's all. Nothing wrong with that.

[bobrea]

No one cares that you're a girl. You don't need to say it in your article title to draw attention.

[JAMurida]

What I always wanted to know is why do girl gamers always try and make themselves stand out with the gamer tag. For example, something like Girlgamer229, Babygirl7288 or [insert guy name]'s girl586. You know? It's almost like they are trying to tell you, "HEY HEY!!! GIRL GAMER OVER HERE!!!!!!". Of the 9+ years of online gaming, I find it very rare to find a guy who's name is something like, "Guygamer330 or something like that.

Now of course this doesn't apply to ALL girl gamers out there but it makes you wonder if some of them really are just attention whores.

[GrumpyVeteran]

Sorry girl, but if you're wrong about something ... prepare to be corrected. It doesn't make me look bad that I actually know more than you do. That's ridiculous. Ignorance on a subject so deep that you have to be corrected looks bad for YOU, girl, not me.

I don't understand why girls always want to be "correct" and get annoyed when a guy corrects them. Just suck it up and go "ok, you're right" and move the hell on.

Dammit.

[newn4gguy]

Have you ever had a girlfriend?

[Ravenor]

I have a girlfriend, if she's wrong I correct her and I don't get my head bit off.

[fr00ty-wizenhymer]

The list is a lie.

[theinkandpen]

*turns on dictaphone* Idea: Write an article pretending to be a girl-gamer to get traffic.

[Ravenor]

I lol'd when she mentioned Black Ops, if you also look at her favorite games you will find most of them came out within the last two years.

Not good form for someone trying to put on a mask of being a "hardcore" gamer.

[SwiftArsonist]

this article is lame. all lies! especially the last one lol

[newn4gguy]

Where do you live?

[ForROME]

lame article

[7xsPD]

So basically what they're saying is that gamers should be someone that they aren't or don't want to be.

[net123456]

1-2 have nothing to do with gaming. A lot of girls hate that in guys, if its about gaming or not. You can be an elitist for pretty much everything and talk non stop about one topic guys tend to do that when they are obssessed with something. If its Cars Computer Parties Games or whatever.

To 3-4 have not much to say dont know any girl gamer and never even had the idea to invite a girl to play videogames with my friends.

To 5 seems times have changed. 10 years ago considering a nerdy gamer as hot ? Thank god nobody thought of me as a gamer back then.

[NnT3291]

things are quite different here in Asia. Girls think gamers are cool and smart, some famous gamers even have fan clubs XD

[llBensonll]

Things are quite different there in Asia, women also love to simulate r@pe and all other sorts of sick sexually violent and generally disgusting acts over there as turn-ons. Not to mention a all out general culture of conforming to outside pressures. Think I'll stay here in the states

[NnT3291]

You must watch a lot of Japanese p0rn and hentai lol. Besides, it has nothing to do with this article.

[theEx1Le]

This is news? o_O. This seriously comes off as tips on how to pick up girls and is the top story on a gamer news site. *sigh* I need to stop coming here.

[Blasphemy]

She just wrote the article for hits and it worked.

[newn4gguy]

Basically, if you have ANY self-awareness in you, you'll be fine. ;)

[danielle007]

I hate this article. Everything about it.

"girl gamers" are the scum of the gaming industry, since they give actual gamers who happen to be female a bad reputation of being attention whores / just terrible in general, like this person. gtfo.

[whydoyouask]

Oh, girls and their opinions on things...always a laugh :D

[ColdNorway]

I've been gaming since the 70's on many different systems, and apart from my younger sister I've never met another female "gamer" in person throughout my many school years or later at work. As console gaming was pretty much offline MP even up to the PS2, most friends met together at home to play.I've never heard any female school friends talk positive about gaming at all,boys who had technology interests were über-nerds (not dating/party material at all). Even though some girls way have snuck into gaming, it didn't become a popular thing "to do" before the Wii hit the marked.If you read software sales for Wii most girls will tend to buy very casual games as Wii Sports/Wii Fit.Motive= possible health gain(keep fit) is the main reason to use the Wii,it's not the entertainment value that's alluring for most women. They've never owned a system or played a game before,but bought a Wii after seeing a TV ad.These women are just technology users, but thankfully aren't claiming to be hardcore gamers as some bimbos I've seen on the internet. God boys are so easy, and girls with a craving for attention know oh so well how to get it. Throw out some popular game titles,dress slutty,do some sexy poses and expose some nice cleavage and you're golden.It's retarded and sad, but many girls do this. As I now own a PS3 the MP is pretty much all online, and I've met some female gamers in CoD. Some are clearly both hardcore gamers and better players than me, I have no problem with admitting defeat and saying GG with respect.But I must say I rather enjoy hearing young boys scream out and rage quit after getting owned by a girl. The last safe haven for males are under attack, but it will never crumble as the female invading force will always be outnumbered.The main article is set to the gaming world but as stated before it's just a insight to female thinking in general.

[DFresh]

F*** this casual gamer!
Girl gamers are cool but come on if you want to fit in this gaming culture then do some research on the gaming industry, play games and learn the ropes.
It's that easy.
This is my culture and I'm gonna defend it especially when someone says something stupid.
Call me a nerd I don't give a shit.
:)

[VonAlbrecht]

If a prospective female actually carried this mindset with them, they wouldn't be dating material. Gamer or not.

[VTKC]

Girls like gamers/nerdy guys? yeah sure they do. Like anyones going to believe this cock and ball story.

[MWH]

it's one way to look at it, quite interesting and nice actually.

[llBensonll]

5 THINGS GUYS WONT SAY ABOUT “HARDCORE” GIRL GAMERS (By a guy) ….remember all, this is just an opinion of one man and i hope you will post this.

1. You are all mostly online gamers because you are un-attractive and can not hold power over any man in the real world. You get attention online and you love it.

2. Most of the stuff you spout through the headset is utter nonsense and it kills real men to hear whiny 15 year olds and married men enable and support this dribble because they have no self respect or confidence and are so self deprecating they are just happy to say that they can talk to a girl. Also, we all secretly just want to get a shot of your boobs one day. (God bless Xbox Uno)

3. Your are stubborn, so most likely, when you see a situation you don’t agree with you try to alter and change it to suit you and your needs, instead of moving on to something or someone you might fit in better with. (Seriously these “tips” for guys aren’t going to help anyone get laid)

4. You are pretty shallow and you broadly generalize all hardcore gaming males as “nerds” and guess what fellas, NOT MANY chicks find nerds hot, if a girl likes you its usually not because you play xbox and like technology its because of the person you are and how you treat them, and if its good enough you can be an axe murdered and they will still stand by you, or there would be no such thing as congeal visits. Its shallow, but you can fix her Iphone all day, but if some guy comes along and hits her “buttons” better than you, your gone lol

5. You are likely a borderline feminist who feels disenfranchised in a male dominated hobby, and you have little, if any, real female friends yourself. So you create a glorified mechanism to control the behavior of men around you. Ever wonder why there are very few, if any, multiple girls in the same party chat or on the same team in gaming? Cause they don’t get along well with each other because they all mostly have this chicks mindset, and they cannot claim the alpha spot in the group. (Im assuming your at best between 15-20 yrs old) so lets call a spade a spade, this is merely a list of to do things for her BF to keep him in check.

[llBensonll]

Plain and simple, if a girl doesn’t like you, thats her loss, don’t be an arrogant jerk about it, but you shouldn’t have to change who you are for someone to be interested in you. If she doesn’t like your friends, who cares? You probably wont like hers and they should have nothing to do with the two of you. You can keep those relationships separate.

Don’t focus on gaming as a relationship essential no matter how much you like it, if you like it and your girl doesn’t then compromise. Do some things she likes sometimes and she will always return the favor if shes worth her weight in salt. There are very limited circumstances were great girls like to sit around all day and play games with you, accept it and understand why that is a bit unrealistic to even wish for. If your going to have any long lasting relationship your going to have to put he controller down and get off your ass every now and then and socialize in the real world. That is the harsh reality of growing up and living life.

Im in no way saying fore-go your greatest hobby, but understand the sacrifices you will need to make to it to make any relationship work. Like she said herself in one comment, if she didn’t game she would have nothing in common with her bf. Essentially stating that should one of them fall out of the hobby, there in for some rough times. Consider the background and motives of the source before you blindly agree and say “G THX THIS WILL TOTALLY GET ME TO SCORE WITH THE LADIES!” No sir, no it wont, and if they aren’t interested in your personality, they are not worth it.

And you can’t make the argument that im sexist without this entire article being considered sexist in itself. One woman doesn’t like the actions of her bf and his group of buddies so she created a guide book for her BF to follow . So everyone should? Common now, grow a pair guys, and stop worrying about rejection. The answer doesn’t lie in your gaming persona, it lies in what else can you bring to the table and your willingness to compromise.....rant concluded

[Deadman_Senji]

Whoopedee fuckin doo

[artynerd]

"…but going into details about development and comparing it to other games is not something I may be interested in talking about. Especially when I am trying to get to know you."

^ That line right there just told me you're not a real gamer. Video games are my absolute favorite pass time. I love movies and books, but what form of entertainment lets you control the action? Only video games.

If you don't like the fact that some of us are very interested in the development of games, you're just not as into it as we are, and you need to persue someone else who shares the same casual gaming interest as you - the occasional gamer.

"Derrr derrr, I play Angry Birds on my phone, I'm a gamer girl! GIVE ME SOME FUCKING ATTENTION!!!!" STFU.

Dear fellow gamer guys, let me tell you first hand (cuz I married one), there are, in fact, REAL gamer girls out there and they love talking about game development and all things having to do with gaming. You just have to spot the real ones from the ones using games to get your attention (like this article). The girl in this article is OBVIOUSLY not a gamer. She is just into shy guys who are too timid to approach her, ie, she gets off on being thought of as some unapproachable goddess. FUCK THAT!

[danielle007]

"but what form of entertainment lets you control the action? Only video games."

Uhm, choose your own adventure books?! Durrrr! Those were the best.. :D

[AntsPai]

My girlfriend plays alot of WoW, Minecraft, Xbox and ps3. It's funny 'cus guys online either give her free stuff and be super nice to her or else they rage at her and deliberately hate her for being female... It's rare that anyone treats her like anyone else when they hear her voice online

[bmw489]

getting laid over games rather get laid

[MrMaloonigan]

me me me me me me me Pay Attention To Me Dammit! me me me me
5 Things Girls Won't Say About Gamer Guys (Written by a G**T)

[i3eyond the Circle]

Just be a fucking man when you're off the Xbox and not one of those idiots who give off that virgin aura wherever they go talking that gaming bullshit to people that don't care at all at the time.

You know that guy who plays games? Don't go up to him talking about all kind of random BS because he's only nodding his head and agreeing to see you go away faster without hurting your feelings making you go on a suicide spree or death gif rant on 4chan.

If you can master this....a girl shouldn't even care that you play video games....but I'm pretty sure most if not all of the hardcore gamers have fetishes for little cosplay women and bayonetta so when they are with a real woman they are sexually incompetent.

[Linko64]

Wow this got popular.....im betting becasue it has the term 'girl gamer' in ?

[Big_Dom]

BEHOLD! the mind of a trollop!

[Dneye]

@L6RD7BLU3. "It's turn off to me when you think your right and I know for a fact your wrong..."

Ooooh-ho-hoo, well then, I gather from your post that you don't mind being corrected yourself when you're in the wrong, right? (Or does this just apply to other folk and not yourself?). So, now, if that's the case then it's 'You'RE wrong', as in YOU ARE, not 'YOUR'. ^_~

Cause liked you posted: 'if your wrong your wrong *****'.

[Rashonality]

there's certain things in life you can't change or fix and the only thing you should do is "play along", Sexism, Racism and Religion.

Women Have their interests and men have their's, the fact that there's some fields men are more interested than women doesn't mean women can't success in that field, but it's a simple fact that men have more interest in it than women and vice versa.

men are better than women in sport.

White men can't jump.

My God would kick your God's ass.

those kind of comments/Ideas will always be here, the only thing you can do is ignore it.

i know my post won't change anything and that's my point in the first place that there's bunch of things you can't change or fix but if i convinced at least one person to ignore these stereotypes than i consider my self succeeded in what i intended to do, help people one person to not give a fcuk about those kinds of things.

[getnsome]

I agree with her first point. Just stfu, to us normal people you seem like more of a douche than a jersey shore member. Her third point is pretty legit too, we all have those cavemen friends who do nothing but sleep and game (they smell bad).

[Taggart451]

This is the "perfect storm" for N4G. Male dominated website being told by girls to "stay nerdy and girls will like you."

This doesn't belong here. It's just as sexist as guys saying that girls should belong in the kitchen or whatever.

[lMHl]

My girl friend hates xbox360 wants to kill master chief and put his head in my bed and she wont talk to me for hours if I play so no... girls do hate gaming