well its a party here people are drinking excess amount of alchohol so what do you expect? nothing good can from it. if you dont want these things to happen dont go especially if your a girl.
^ You do have a point, but the fact is that if you can't hold your booze, maybe you shouldn't be drinking at all. I'm sure the guy did not know what he was doing and was ashamed when he sobered up, but he still willingly put himself in a state where he knew he might get himself in trouble if he did. Don't try to shift the blame on the girl for simply going to the party. It was the drunken moron who should get the blame here.
Did anyone else read the story and see the girl comment confused because the picture they used isn't hers and she didn't see the point in mentioning her hair color..
@mafia.... Yeah that makes sense. The girls should stay in because slobbering idiots like this are running wild. How about the guy in question grows the hell up and learns something about personal space and decency?
I work as sucurity on bars and such and the other night 2 guys (around 35-50 yo) were peeing out in public and when a girl (around 16-20 yo) minding her own business walked by they started shouting "here's a cock for you" and showing their dicks to her. She naturally just kept on going and didn't even look but that kind of behaviour is pretty depressing and sad.......and oh so normal when people drink too much.
Do they deserve a slap on the face? Absolutely. Can you do it? Absolutely not.
I work as security on bars and such and the other night 2 guys (around 40-50 yo) were peeing out in public and when a girl (around 16-18 yo) minding her own business walked by they started shouting "here's a cock for you" and showing their dicks to her. She naturally just kept on going and didn't even look but that kind of behaviour is pretty depressing and sad.......and oh so normal when people drink too much.
Do they deserve a slap on the face? Absolutely. Can you do it? Absolutely not. Sad but true but there is nothing you can do.
Call me crazy, but imo guys AND girls should be able to go to parties (with or without booze) and have a good time without being harassed or groped by ANYONE. The idiots who can't handle their alcohol are the ones who should stay at home. It's not fair to blame the girl just because she dared to leave her house with the expectation of having a good time.
This shit happens all the time over XBL. Funny how upset people are getting when it happens in the real world, yet they brush it off as nothing when it happens over the internet. Yes what this guy did was wrong and it's wrong when it happens over the internet too.
To clarify, I meant the sexual harassment part happens all the time and I didn't solely mean XBL. I am saying that sexual harassment happens online all the time over the various gaming platforms and largely it get's ignored until one or two groups draws attention to the problem. Then those few groups are attacked with all sort of nasty comments.
But congratz on taking the easy road and making some tacky jokes. The joke was actually funny the first and second time it was made, everything that precede those two just show how stupid most people on the internet can be. Nothing like hiding behind a computer and acting like a big man.
Great..more f''d up news in the world, in one of my favorite hobbies at that too; gaming. We need these people to gtfo! Put em all in a separate state we reserve for them and fence the place up xP
Server jail time? that's funny.. I've lost count the amount of times I've had women come onto me while drunk in nightclubs and randomly run their hands down my abs and trying to slip their hands down my jeans. Don't even get me started on the amount of women who have rubbed their tits against me on the dance floor.
Not that I'm complaining, most of the time I love it but why is it that when a guy does this it's disgusting but somehow women can get away with it? This happens all the freaking time whenever there is parties and alcohol.. anyone who goes out drinking on a saturday night will see this happen at least 2-3 times if they look out for it.
It's ok for girls to do it because the a) the guy usually likes it b) the guy is usually bigger and can walk away if not interested.
If a guy does it to a girl, it's a lot more scary for her because you have a much stronger person trying to over power you and it's usually worse than a little bit of flirting.
Flirting is fine, it's just when the guy or girl does not take no for an answer.
"Not that I'm complaining, most of the time I love it."
That's exactly why it's different. You would be hard pressed to find any guy in the whole world who would even complain if a woman actually raped him (which is definitely possible), let alone complain about a girl pressing her boobs up against him. Is there anyone even just here alone who would stand up in all honesty and say "if some girl pressed her boobs up against me I'd feel violated and offended?" Hell no. And if they did say that, they aren't being honest.
However, if any girl did that to you and you DIDN'T like it, then it's the same as this girl who didn't like her hand being put on some perverts penis. Especially after she mentioned so many times that she has a boyfriend. If a person DOESN'T like it, it's not allowed. Simple as that. Just because it happens when people get drunk doesn't mean it's acceptable.
If you're comparing your personal experiences to what happened to this girl, you're deluding yourself if you think she liked it. She didn't like it at all. Particularly if you forced her to do it, like this guy allegedly did.
How would you feel if some fat munter forced your hand onto her sweaty, fishy vagina in a club... no big deal or disgusting?
Tbh I wouldn't write a blog about it and be emotionally scarred, I'd probably just go wash my hands and laugh at the drunken mess but still, completely unacceptable to force someone to do something they don't want to do.
Is it really a double standard though? Unless a girl is unsually strong or big, men generally have the advantage of being able to walk away or physically move the offending girl away. But I've been to clubs and seen instances where girls get physically dragged away from their friends or groped by someone without their permission. And they don't have the physical advantage that guys do, so there's not much they can do about it if the guy doesn't want to let them go. So I guess the only thing they can do is verbally complain.
I don't think it's a double standard to admit that guys and girls have different advantages/disadvantages. In fact I think it's a little silly that so many feminists think we should all be treated exactly the same. What's wrong being treated as equals while ALSO acknowledging our differences and accepting that one gender can't do everything the other gender can do, and vice versa.
Unacceptable? Just look at your avatar pic! And look at the blonde! She is clearly out of line herself. Her boobs look like they are going to fall out. Might as well not even wear a top at all! Remember this is America! Land of the free and if you don't like it, get the "F" out.
I don't know if its true or not but if you read the comments on the article, The girl they're talking about and asked why they didn't use a picture of her. So that picture isn't her.
"explodedsoda
I like the article, but mentioning the color of my hair and then the picture of someone that isn't me is kind of...confusing?"
I do agree with being decent towards one another but that is a choice. I can't force anyone to be nice to me or others. Besides I hate double standards. Why is it ok for her to show so much because "she's pretty" but a guy can't just be funny, "probably his intention or maybe a bet"? True a guy should be more of a gentlemen but somethings are egged on and deserved. Let's say this girl dresses really skimpy but then hates it when guys make passes at her. Who's fault is that? She dresses that way to get attention. It is like knowing that fire is hot but putting your hand into it. Well guess what, chances are you gonna get burned...
I see what you're saying I agree as well, but in my experience most girls who do dress slutty want the attention. Don't be be shy have a little chat with her she wants the attention and most likely most guys are to shy so take your chance (but be careful), but dont whip out your knob and grab her hand to try and make her polish it, be a gentleman. I agree when a girl dresses that way and is a snob about you talking to her than shes not even worth the time, shes just trolling or a mean little she devil, girls like that need some physiological help.
It's just that it's not all his fault. Put it this way. If someone antagonises someone into punching them in the face and eventually wham! They got punched in the face, some would say they had it coming.
So.. if you happen to see a hot girl on the streets in the middle of monday, its fine that you get your junk out of your pants and make her touch it? I would call this sexual harassment, and yes sexual harassment is only considered sexual harassment when the victim feels like he or she has been victimized.
I always wondered why Amercans changed how some words are spelt.
I know many good Amercans that are great people and vary smart, but its Amercans like you that give them a bad reputation.
I'm sure you could of found a better way to say what you did without being so ignorant, or not have said anything at all. I know its the internet and you want to be a hardcore internet gangster but learn some manners kid, please.
lol "In American" That drives me crazy when some one says to a non-English speaking person "do you speak American" like REALLY!.. whats wrong with " do you speak English" words are spelt differently but it's the same language, even though I like the British spellings more(blame my Brittish blood for that)
Arse vs Ass, well imo I use arse actually about fairly as often as ass(as well as call my little brother an "arsehole" everyday). I think arse is more fun and in most cases taken less offensively. I'm not an a English expert I actually have a really hard time with spelling, grammar, and punctuation but I have improved over the past two years thankfully. I try hard to get better but I'm not great. lol
mostly I don't care even what version be it American English or English I'll accept both. I just hate when people are rude and ignorant for no reason at all like Mr. ajax17 here, theres no need for it. It's not like someone was attacking him or trying to make him mad, he probably just wants to sound cool and be an internet punk gangster (look at his comment history, "F this, F that, F'ing this" )... like we need more of those, if we run out we know where to find him. LOL
Deserves a prison sentence or a lengthy time in the nut house. The man obviously shouldn't be allowed around human beings. As if the security guard just shrugged it off!
You're right that this had nothing to do with PAX. In fact I think this headline is really problematic. "Minecraft PAX Party" is simply not true - it was a private party held by Notch that just happened to be close to PAX. And "blonde girl" - her hair colour is relevant? Really? Huh.
HOWEVER, I'm not really sure what you mean by your other points. If I grab your hand now and you're not expecting it, I will be able to move your hand somewhere. But this seems to gloss over the point that IT'S NOT OKAY FOR ME TO GRAB YOUR HAND AND TRY TO PUT IT ON MY PENIS, no matter how you frame it. This is called sexual assault and it is, for very good reason, against the law in most places.
The second you grab my hand is the second I'll react. She was drinking and probably so was everyone else, if the dude showed his weinner to x amount of people and "forced" this chick to touch it and no one stopped him. You are responsible for how much you drink to keep yourself competent.
Also change tittle to mohjan held party because from her own words PAX is getting the heat for this.
@killerhog: Your attitude is reprehensible. If you bothered to read her account, you'd have noticed she was trying to show disinterest in speaking with him by messing around with her phone. When you're trying to not pay attention it's quite easy for someone to take a split second to put your hand somewhere. You may like to think you have jedi reflexes, but I would bet you all of Bill Gates billions that I could make you touch a hot stove element before you have a chance of preventing it if you're not paying specific attention to me.
This in NO WAY was her fault AT ALL. The very idea that you can link any set of variables together to try and make it her fault is disturbing.
Re: your edit? Yeah. She should totally have expected to touch someone's penis, what with having something to drink. Her fault for complaining, not his fault for trying to make someone touch his dick.
I'm gonna go ahead and say it... Click on the article, then the full story in the article. The author of the actual article is freaking tidy. The guy who did this was in the wrong... But seriously, she is nice...
What does porn star and Jessica Nigiri have to do with this girl? Nothing.
Why use them? Maybe the writer didn't contact the blond girl and just wrote the article about her blog post. Therefore not having permission to use her photo.
He should have used a photo of the party or something Minecraft or PAX related. No reason to show someone that is known but has nothing to do with this article.
He said he wanted him thrown out of "his" party. I told him if it's "his" party, then "he" should do it instead of the guards personally to show the seriousness of him.
His this, his that. It was a party for Markus P. Aka Notch. The idiot who did what he did will probably get some jail time for being a Touchy Feely Francis.
If the guard was hired specifically for the party, then the guard wasn't doing his job by ignoring it. It's the guard's job to keep things orderly on Notch's behalf. Notch is paying him. So if there's a complaint, it's the guard's job to resolve it. Someone acting unruly? That's what he was hired for.
As a security officer that works events regularly, it makes me cringe when I hear these kinds of stories. The stereotypical security guard is either lazy as f*ck, or an overzealous rent-a-cop. I'd rather work with the overzealous kind - at least they do their damn job.
All Security can do legally is call cops or ask you to leave. Any unwanted physical contact constitutes assault. Renta cops are useless when it comes to stopping crime. Security has no more authority than a civilian. Someone not being payed shitty wages should have stopped the guy.
That's not entirely true. While security does have the same powers of arrest as a civilian, a guard can legally make an arrest, just as a citizen can.
I'm sure the the US, it's called something different, but the same principle applies. IF someone asked this person, who is on their property (or rented property) to leave and that person doesn't leave, they can technically make a citizen's arrest. A security officer hired by the owner of said property acts on behalf of the owner in these situations. The guard can call the cops, or make an arrest.
If you're being paid to do something, even if it is a particularly shitty wage, you should still do your job. Or else you have no business having that job in the first place.
Asian Geek/Nerd/Freak/Weirdo making all Asians and gamers look bad.
There's a typical stereotype for gamers being nerds that don't know how to interact with people in the social world. This in a way kinda proves that and it sucks. Everyone in that party should have kicked that freaks ass. My mind is still baffled about what he did.
That girl was also weird to be honest, she was kinda flashed and she did nothing about it until the end of the party where she ran to the cab and then started crying ¬.¬
Well at least she got 1000's of people to check out her blogging site now.
Update: Just read my comment and it seems I was a little harsh on the girl. I do feel sorry for her and her experience. Freaks like that guy should never exist in the real world and go fuck off home where they belong.
This probably being blown way out of proportion.. drinks flowing, things get heated and sometimes people do things they shouldn't. I'm sure the security guard has seen this sort of thing more times than he can count hence why he didn't do anything.
Chances are this blonde girl was showing more skin than she probably should have and Mr drunk guy misinterpreted it as her wanting to get laid and with a bit of dutch courage, thought he'd get the ball rolling so to speak.
Are you frickin' serious? I rarely agree with cgoodno on anything, but his reply to your stupidity is apt. How the hell can you in any way try to defend this sick pervert? Did you skip the part where he tried showing her pics of boobs from women WHO WERE AT THE PARTY?! This was a guy who knew what he was doing as he was being perverted to every girl there. It wasn't a "well she's dressed like a slut so I should treat her like one" moment.
You need your head checked. There is NEVER an instance EVER where his behaviour can be remotely considered acceptable, or excusable. The fact that you'd use that tired "she was asking for it" idea gives all respectable men and gamers a bad reputation. Wow. Just wow. I think this says it all...
Who stands within reach of a drunk man with his penis out? Dumbasses thats who. The guy is a pervert and she is a dumb blonde IMO.
Attention People!! Leave the area immediately when drunk people get naked unless you want to have something sexual happen. This stuff should go without saying.
I feel sorry for the lass, but my pity is shallow, she seems emotionally weak to be honest. The dude is a creep, a LOT of creeps exist in this world.
I guess if writing a blog post makes her feel better about this incident. I know girls that have been full on gang raped in similar situations... Compared to their stories I find it hard be emotionally invested in this..
Consider yourself lucky and look on the bright side, in other places, it could have been a lot worse...
Women are constantly reduced to their looks. A good percentage of people will click to read the article just so they can judge if the girl is pretty or not. Even heterosexual females will click to compare themselves to her. Pointing out that she was a blonde peeks the readers interest because now we know something about her looks. By pointing that trait out specifically it is implied that she is attractive. Unfortunately women will probably always have to deal with these kinds of struggles because their social power and influence derives from their looks. Just as a man's social power and influence derives from wealth. You can be ugly and old, but if you are rich many females (not all) will find you attractive.
He didn't try this to some fat chick at the party but rather an attractive blonde. I'm not condoning the behavior. It is simply abhorrent. But an attractive female who drinks too much without the protection of a male will often face these kinds of creeps several times in week.
What really gets me is that the perpetrator in question is trying to justify his actions with the "Asian" stereotype and then tries to gain approval to boost his self-esteem. I understand racial abuse may led him to that kind of thinking but what he did was disgustingly unacceptable.
'The Victim' WTF are you talkin about? It's just a dick, she's likely to have seen some already. Just some tool happy about what he's got, it's not a very traumatic experience, everybody will laugh about it the next day.
Or is this guy trying to white knight and say that gamers are horrible to girls...is this the whole point of the article?
Seeing how she is a women who mixes socially or belongs to a particular group, team, or profession which is going to conventions for attention and to make money she is considered a girl by one of its definitions.
Dressing in cosplay (no matter how sexy it might be) doesn't mean she deserves to be groped or touched withot permission though. But if the comments on the page are anything to go by, Jessica Nigri has nothing to do with the article and her pic just seems to be there because she's blonde and has boobs. smh.
I know Minecraft is an "everyone" game but mostly kid friendly so that's pretty disgusting that he would do that at such an event. At least the writer didn't put, "At Crotch's Minecraft party" instead of "At Notch's..." Isn't it Mojang and not Notch?
What he did was illegal and he should have gone to jail for it, but I don't feel sorry for her at all.
An attractive woman whos been drinking and is sitting alone at a party WILL be approached by guys, that's just how that works. And instead of telling him to she doesn't want to talk, she ignores him in hopes he'll go away, even after the talk turns sexual... yeah real mature.
He crossed the line and his action should be punished (charged), but the situation, was totally avoidable and entirely her own fault. If you're old enough to drink and go to party's, youre old enough to tell a guy you dont want to talk and walk away if his conversation gets dirty.
A victim doesn't participate. She admits talking to him before and after the convo turned sexual: "I was like "most women will agree size doesn't matter" and went back to my phone."
In no way was his action acceptable, but its so cut and dry there's nothing to discuss about it, he should have been arrested and charged. Her behavior however is vary debatable because up until the "penis grab" that situation plays out millions of times every day, and women need to know how to keep themselves from ever getting to that point.
The guy definitely needs to serve some jail time or a fine something. An the guy probably wasn't 1 bit ashamed when he sober up whoever said that, Guy was probably some psycho that came out his house for the first time, an thought he could treat a women like there treated in a porno. But at the same time you should expect a creep like that if your a girl at an event with alcohol an your dressed like a skank. If I walked around in dirty cloths people would think I'm a bum, Just like If I walked in to Kmart with a Kmart uniform of course somebody is going to ask for help. Don't dress like a skank an you won't be treated like 1. But the guy is still a creep.
Just to clarify something, the girl in pink on the article is not actually the girl who was the victim (see the comments in the article).
And I say victim because I think this IS a crime to be taken seriously, obviously the dude is not all there in the brain department to do that, and if people get away with it then who knows what they will do next time?
My own inner demons couldn't help but giggle, but its still quite sick.
Edit - and what on Earth does the fact she was blonde have to do with anything?
What's funny is that the headline makes it sound like both events were intertwined and they weren't at all. They just both happened to be on the same weekend. Poor Notch. Poor, poor, poor, little Notch. :( lol
Who knows if she thought the dude was ugly or not but if a slightly attractive girl takes your hand and places it on her tits are you gonna pull your hand away? LMAO
I had a great spot on a sofa at the wwe summerfest event until and the girl and his fiancee invented a sit just in front of me. I had to go sit somewhere else, with great disappoint.
I'm sure she'll get over it with all the new hits to her blog and hundreds more creepers liking her on facebook. She left a comment in that article that leads to her FB and shes a pretty girl so she has staying power. She'll probably "explode" in popularity now with a thousand internet white knights at her back.
Completely right especially the part about the white knights. The same idiots that will get into a fight in a night club all because of some attention seeking girl
That's just unacceptable behaviour. That guy needs to serve some jail time!
Well...I guess he's about that life
He forced her to touch it? WTF?!
Why didn't she deliver a swift kick to his exposed genitals?
The guy probably likes doing this as an hobby lol.
Deserves a prison sentence or a lengthy time in the nut house. The man obviously shouldn't be allowed around human beings. As if the security guard just shrugged it off!