It's hard to beat that feeling of anticipation before a race as worries rebound around your head. How the first corner will go. Will the car in front get away quick enough? Is that setup you worried about during practice going to cause your tyres to blister and fade away quicker than everyone else?
The likelihood is that, for you, no racing game has produced that kind of goosebump-enducing response, but if you have the time and the money, iRacing - an AI-free online-only sim which involves racing against speed junkies from around the globe on dedicated servers - could be exactly what you're looking for.