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Why I'm not Always Proud to be a Gamer

Alex from Margin Media writes: Playing video games is my favourite past time. With each platform I played on, there was a community of like-minded gamers to interact with, each sharing my passion, interest, and overall joy at playing games. Unfortunately, it wasn't until I got older that the illusion shattered, and - especially after being confronted by the rabid fanboys in the Microsoft, Sony, and Nintendo camps - I discovered just how disgustingly toxic the gaming community can be.

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Cindy-rella1515d ago (Edited 1515d ago )

a lot of gamers are actually fanatics when it comes to the games and console they like and they can't objectively see the games and consoles for what they are.

you'll here some say 30fps is unplayable but people have been playing games for years at 30fps and less a lot of times but because they don't prefer something or is ok with something then its bad. we all know 60fps and above is easier on the eyes to track but 30fps is ok as well. the newer consoles could have been twice as powerful as they are now but then the prices would have been higher and most would object to paying higher prices.

it boggles my mind to see youtube channels and gaming channels dedicated to spread lies about other consoles just because the person running the site prefers something else. everything is blown out of proportion to fuel their agenda of proving their console or system of choice is superior. i really don't understand how some would waste time and effort to spread lies where they'd make websites to spew rubbish

gamers should just be accepting of other things as they are and realize that people have different tastes so its ok for some things to be different which doesn't make whatever they are into rubbish

randomass1711515d ago

Well said. Sony's been my main for two generations now. I still have most of my PS2 library and my PS3 has endless hours of game and movie time clocked into it. That being said, I love seeing the other guys and what they have to offer. They make the environment more competitive for Sony and sometimes even offer some fun to me as secondary entertainment. That's why I bought my Wii U when I did. :) People should love their favorites, not hate the competition.

ThatOneRiggaNob1515d ago

If only there were more people like you 2 on this site

AngelicIceDiamond1515d ago

"everything is blown out of proportion to fuel their agenda of proving their console or system of choice is superior. i really don't understand how some would waste time and effort to spread lies where they'd make websites to spew rubbish"

I never understand it myself but ppl do anyways.

Eejanaika1515d ago

Console wars is like a sport.
No one wants their favorite team to loose that they grew up supporting.
In a way console wars are the same thing.
No one wants their favorite console growing up to loose.
Its unfortanate that these poor sportsman ship exist and even growing up i usto be a like that.
however getting older you get an appreciation of everything, in a way,
i wish more people would appreciate what each console and system do and what each company has invisioned.
whether its good idea or not,
a new thing or not.
its worth a try.
however i would agree with you.
sometime i wonder why.
*shakes my head*

KinjoTakemura1515d ago

Can't make money if everyone is happy, courteous, and cordial. Just take a look at some of these stories that are being written. Every other story; "Who won?" "Who's winning?" "Console war?" They are all looking for a piece of that 26 to 30 billion dollar gaming pie and the fan boys are willing pawns.

LightDiego1515d ago

I agree with him. But just ignore the fanboys with useless discussion and appreciate the games by yourself, seems simplistic but it's effective.

DragonKnight1515d ago (Edited 1515d ago )

What I read: "I care way too much about how other people act and what other people think, to the point that it begins to make me doubt myself and feel ashamed about doing something I enjoy."

You need to understand that gaming is just like any other hobby or pastime. It's comparatively young, but it's no different than sports, cars, movies, books, whatever. The fans are the same no matter what hobby you look at. In sports, fanboys of soccer cause actual riots. Ever been to the imdb movie discussions?

Pride in being a gamer should have nothing to do with anyone but yourself. Do you like video games? Do you play them often because you like them? Are you unashamed that you like video games? If the answer to those 3 questions is "yes" then congratulations on being a proud gamer.

If you have to add on to those answers with "except when fanboys are around" then what you are is a sad person who allows other people to live inside their head, rent free, and decide what they can and can't enjoy.

And finally, you're on the internet. What you're witnessing is the result of anonymous speech. It's a freedom that causes people to get drunk on the power of it. It looks to be something that you are either not old enough to handle, or not strong enough to handle, so maybe you should remove yourself from the community because it's not going anywhere. Your best solution is to stop caring about how others act and focus on what you love about gaming and talk to people you know don't act the way you don't like.

DLConspiracy1515d ago

I think the gaming community should come together regardless of which side and not tolerate senseless hatred of peoples preferences. So what if its the internet. As a community we should hold people accountable for their actions. As it stands there is no repercussions for that behavior. Its not just about telling someone to get a tougher skin or leave. Or else you risk losing a large portion of the community that deserves their rightful real estate in the community.

DragonKnight1514d ago

"I think the gaming community should come together regardless of which side and not tolerate senseless hatred of peoples preferences."

Never gonna happen. People are diverse and expressive in many different ways. Life will never reach a point where everyone goes "I like this" and someone else goes "Well, I like that" and both go "Fair enough."

The reasoning for this is known as something that I like to call Johnson Syndrome (it's not actually called that, it has a proper term but I don't remember what it is). It's basically your neighbour vs. you in a constant battle of one upmanship on multiple levels right down to image.

I'm not saying that that's not immature and stupid, I'm saying that's just reality and it's not going to go anywhere.

"Or else you risk losing a large portion of the community that deserves their rightful real estate in the community."

Well, no one has the right to force a particular kind of discussion, so no one has the right to "real estate" in the gaming community if it means forcing other people to conform to something that benefits one over the other. This isn't like actual real estate.

randomass1711514d ago

I get what you're saying. Internet anonymity makes creating a truly civil community environment especially challenging. There are steps communities can take to having those civil steps taken but it would require people to look down on trolls and cynics who relentlessly attack others and on sites like these the very opposite tends to happen.

DragonKnight1514d ago

I have a personal saying that applies to something like this.

Freedom isn't only "not free", it's also not always pretty. Freedom for one has to mean freedom for everyone and that means you won't always like what people choose to do with that freedom.

Because I understand that, I don't bother allowing myself to become offended by what other people say. There will never be a time when all of humanity will always agree on even one thing and never a time when there won't be someone saying something that offends someone else.

In life, it's much easier to roll with the punches than it is to force someone to only punch a certain way.

starchild1514d ago

People that act that way about sports or any other thing are just as stupid.

It doesn't surprise me to find one of N4G's biggest fanboys writing a comment in defense of fanboyism.

Sly-Lupin1515d ago (Edited 1515d ago )

The proliferation of bigotry, immaturity and vitriol I see online make me deeply ashamed of my peers. So much so that I no longer even self-identify as a gamer.

starchild1514d ago

Couldn't agree more. There are quite a few really great gamers I have gotten to know over the years (or at least observed), but by and large I despise this "community". At least the vocal minority that seems to think it represents "the gamer". Most of these people are ignorant, irrational, whiny, entitled brats that are totally detached from reality.

AngelicIceDiamond1515d ago (Edited 1515d ago )

@Dragon "I care way too much about how other people act and what other people think, to the point that it begins to make me doubt myself and feel ashamed about doing something I enjoy."

You didn't read it because that's not what hes saying.

"Idioms such as 'PC Master Race', 'console pleb', 'Xbot', and 'Sony pony' are just a few of the tamer derogatory terms thrown around by gamers simply because they prefer different ways of playing to others."

Isn't that clearly what goes on here? Maybe hes being attacked by fanboys because he simply has a different preference, very simple.

"What you're witnessing is the result of anonymous speech. It's a freedom that causes people to get drunk on the power of it."

That's the internet for ya, yep.

"It looks to be something that you are either not old enough to handle, or not strong enough to handle, so maybe you should remove yourself from the community because it's not going anywhere."

So say for example he gets ripped apart by the community of gamers because hes a fan of a different console he should leave? That has nothing to do with him but maybe there's something wrong with the community.

There's a difference between saying stuff that warrants the behavior and getting nerd attacked because he prefers something different, which is what the article mainly implies because he has an Xbox.

"We've established that your ability to actually enjoy being a gamer doesn't stem on your love of gaming and in fact stems on the behaviour of others. This, in my opinion, doesn't make you a true gamer."

So I guess he shouldn't go on the internet and discuss what he loves and loves to play?

Did you read this part?

"Getting looked down upon and insulted by those who owned a custom-built PC or a PlayStation 3 was annoying at best, and crushingly demoralising at worst. Was I really that stupid as to purchase something from Microsoft? Maybe they were right... They would suggest for me to kill myself for enjoying my favourite games on my preferred platform - and this happened on several occasions."

So I guess as an Xbox fan I shouldn't take what anyone says here seriously then? Since the internet is clearly a hostile place? He feels ashamed because ppl are threatening to kill him because of a dumb preference.

That's beyond low.

DragonKnight1514d ago

I did read it, and that's the entire theme of the blog. He loses pride in being a gamer due to how others act. It has nothing to do with his love of games or not, he would slink away if he identified as a gamer based on the actions of other people.

The root of what I said remains the same. One's ability to love gaming, and to take pride in being a gamer, should firstly, and lastly, be about the love of gaming and not about what other people say or do.

People have called me all manner of things over the years and I never once said "I hate being a game because of these idiots." They have no impact on my ability to enjoy games, they have impact on my desire to discuss gaming with anyone, I just chalk them up to either being people who I simply disagree with, or who are supreme idiots, but I will never, ever allow anyone to make me feel ashamed to identify as a gamer.

You can only control your own feelings and your own actions and live your life accordingly. Whatever anyone else does is out of your hands and should never force you to change yourself.

randomass1711514d ago

Gotta agree here. Since I started commenting on N4G I've been called every fanboy name thus far. I've been called a Sony fanboy, an Xbox fanboy, a traitor to Sony fans, a Nintendo fanboy, you name it. Doesn't mean I'll stop loving games. Though I can see why this would cause someone to lose pride in the gaming community. Some gamers on the internet make it hard to want to share your experiences with others online.

DragonKnight1514d ago

I will agree with the sentiment of being ashamed of the gaming community sometimes. But facepalming over a community is very different from being ashamed to identify as a member of that community.

There are always going to be bad apples, but they'll never be the majority.

randomass1711514d ago

Agreed. My time on N4G has been a lot of fun. I've come across some strange viewpoints, but it doesn't really compare to the better discussions I've had. Not long ago someone was nice enough to engage in a small discussion about Bioshock Infinite's ending and what he felt was off about it and it was a very good read. Also I of course tend to enjoy reading your blogs on social issues whether or not I completely agree with them. Stuff like that vastly outweighs the crappier side of things, I think.

DragonKnight1514d ago

A lot of people think I have unusual beliefs about social justice issues within gaming, but I really don't. I'm just the most vocal about them on this site. Lol.

But yeah, I can't count how many times I'd have an argument with someone in the comments, but then in PM discussions the conversation is completely different. It's an odd paradigm that exists pretty much all over the internet.

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