CCG writer, Daniele, looks into this very controversial topic.
I am not too sure. What do you all think?
Probably very rare but it's possible!
Hey, if online dating can blossom into a relationship then I don't see why you can't end up having your online friend become real buddies in real life... Not that it's ever happened to me before because I never cared to try, but regardless I still think it's always possible for other gamers out there.
It depends on how one would define friendship. I know and hang out with many ppl, but only a few would go into harms way or make sacrifices to help me in time of need. JESUS CHRIST defined a friend as being one who layes down his or her life for a loved one. An online acquaintance being a "friend", I doubt it. But as BattleN puts it, rare but possible.
Of the people I have met on Xbox Live, I am Facebook friends with some of them and have actually met several in person. If you think about it, these people you befriend online and play with and talk to for hours and hours on end... You might already be hanging out with them more than your traditional friends. The fact that the venue is digital makes very little difference.
@Army_of_Darkness I agree, just have to find that one lol
"Probably very rare but it's possible!" It's certainly possible, though I think the rarity depends on the person in question. Personally speaking, I am an introvert and generally dislike social interaction for a number of reasons. For this reason I don't have many friends and generally talk to people online more than offline. With that being said, my friends online are also closer to traditional friends than the people I know offline. Back in high school I had like 8 friends in person and they refused to do anything with me because my house was 20 minutes out of the way (I transferred schools) and away from any interesting / fun social locations. My main friend for 9+ years almost never talks to me unless I start a conversation with him, I did not get invited to his wedding, nor have I ever been invited to do anything with him. I've also met a few people in college that were totally like "yeah, lets meet up and do something!" and 4 years later, I got a couple of Facebook friends I never talk to. Then you look at my online relationships, which paint a different picture. I have one friend who constantly starts conversations with me, gives a darn about my life, is thoughtful (she made me a pillow of the Spelunker for the Winter holidays) and easily the closest non-adult relationship I have had. I met another guy on BioShock 2 a few years back and we became fairly close too. Not only do we talk, he actually bothered to send me a birthday card + gift (outside of the aforementioned girl, no one that I talk to remembers my birthday) and has done a number of nice gestures over the years. I also dated a girl online that I met every now and then, which probably would have resulted in marriage if she wasn't such a touchy feely type of person (I don't like to be touched). So in the end, I know people in person that want nothing to do with me and I know people online that are friendly / warm. In a lot of ways I would say my online relationships are probably better / healthier than my physical ones, so I suppose I would count them as "real" friends, though again, this is going to vary from person to person.
Do you actually think that any of the "friends" you meet online would ever help you in your time of need? Do you think any of them would even bother going to your funeral if they knew you lived nearby? I treat the internet like any other form of entertainment in my house. If i'm watching a television program, I don't expect any of the actors, news anchors, talk show hosts, or reality tv show participants to actually be my friend if I send them an email telling them how great their show is, and no one should expect someone on your video game console's friend's list to come to your aid in your time of need either. But there are a few and very rare exceptions.
If ppl turn up at your funeral it don't mean there your mate. when ppl die. Everyone comes out the woodwork declaring there friend ship and love. Even though they were dusting the deceased misses or bad mouthing them a week before. If you have no one at your funeral that's when you know you truly have not pissed ppl off in life
False. If you have nobody at your funeral, that's when you know you haven't impacted anyone in your life.
I am not a great guy in real life to be quite honest. Kind of insecure as I have really few people whom I could consider "friends" and just spend my days in school with just one of them during the breaks since I consider him my closest friend. I then joined a community where I met really great people and felt more confident in talking. At first of course were just talking about games and etcetera but after some time, we start trusting each other and build friendships when we talk about different stuff. Whether they are just trivial, or serious stuff, it just takes time to form friendships. I currently believe that online friendships could be considered real friendships when you take time with them. Just like in real life, it takes time to form them.
"Just like in real life, it takes time to form them." Yeah and in both cases people can be deceptive even after you think you know them, but the ones online have extra chances. I have no doubt that online friends can be as real as the offline variety, but you also have to be more careful who you trust.
That is true too, but it is the same with people irl. There are people who will show off their true colors when they don't care but in both online and irl. Just saying, but I do understand that
Definition of friend is 'a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection' So, yes. Whether or not you know them in real life is irrelevant.
Of course, lots of friendships start online and transition to rl. They don't suddenly become real friendships the moment you meet. Online friends have helped me out a ton.
I met a friend online and me and him ended up as roommates for a while a couple of years ago. My fiancee's sister met her now husband and father of her 2 kids online so yes does happen.
I remember when I joined a forum and put my location set to public (which is Brighton, UK) and got a PM from some dude who was telling me he lives in a town close by and stuff. Started talking to him, turned out I already knew him in college and we were already friends IRL. We had no idea we had been posting on the same forum as each other for months. It was pretty crazy.
Yea all friendships are the same either online or in real life.if you talk to someone to often in to short a space a time, You will become volatile and territorial which will generally lead to a battle to the death
I tend to not play competitive games with people I know from RL, I take it too seriously and it bleeds from the gaming relationship to the RL one.
They can evolve into friendships. I've met some of the closest friends I've had online who lived close by, some I actually met up with and were still friends others I either lost touch with or it ended badly and haven't talked to since. Not all, I've had "friends" that I only play with online but we had awesome team work but never knew anything about each other besides the games we played. I've had friends that sat all night in a private party chat all night during my deep depression to make sure I was okay or I with them when their relationship ended or they were in a slump, I even helped someone with their homework and they lived across the country. It's rare and you need to connect as well as you do to your friends in real life but yes it's possible. How many love stories have we seen over the years? Looking at that should be enough proof alone.
I consider it to be real. A lot of them I talk to one skype and such. Especially since I'm into MMO gaming as of late, I just tend to talk to my guildies casually.
a friend is simply someone you can talk to occasionaly and offer or get some help if possible so yeah online friends are still considered friends.
Any single ladies out there? lol
Well I mean people don't think about it but even here, every comment you read including this one, was written by a genuine human being. So I mean if you make friends with someone over the net then I do actually consider that a real life friend. Just because you don't seem them in person and may never do so, doesn't dehumanise them. They are still like minded people who would be a good friend if they lived near by. To me it's just like being friends with someone who has moved away to another country or whatever. However I will say this: a lot of what you see of people online is not always a true reflection. People only show their good light online (mostly) and when you meet them IRL and get more of their personality it can leave you with a bitter taste. Just last year I met a girl on a gaming forum who lives about an hour away or so and we met up and formed a relationship pretty quick and I was thinking "Sweet! I'm dating a gamer chick who is into cosplaying and stuff. Not bad."... But THEN you get past the hobbies and interests and get to their real personality and that... Well here's the thing, online gaming etc, you are probably only talking about gaming with them so it's easy to get along well but in the real world when you're talking about things other than that specific hobby / interest you might just start thinking "Wow what a butthole!".
Of course they can. I've made several online friends with, many I've then met in person afterwards. Is this really a controversial topic?
As many times occurs, it is controversial because some people think it is ;)
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